Let’s pretend for a second that it was your best friend’s birthday. There is a big party scheduled for the weekend and everyone is excited about it.

You pull up to the driveway, walk inside, carry on conversations with old friends and meet some new folks.

And you see the cake, themed party decorations, confetti, snacks and appetizers on the tables with a sign hung across the doorway, “H-A-P-P-Y-B-I-R-T-H-D-A-Y,” that cardboard-ish cut out one, you know which one I’m talking about?

Someone made so much money off of that simple sign…


Fast forward to the gift opening time and not to mention, it’s so awkward because you have to make sure you don’t hurt anyone’s feelings so you maintain a high level of enthusiasm for every gift. I mean every. gift.

And, all of the sudden, the birthdayer plows through the gifts and once it’s all said and done you blurt out, “by the way, I intended, to get you a fidget spinner but yeah, I didn’t.”

How silly does that sound?? And really awkward it would be!

Like, thanks for mentioning you intended to get me a gift but didn’t get it?

On a more serious note, imagine a friend in need of some encouragement but you don’t say anything at all? And the following day you mention, “I intended to say something but didn’t. Sorry.”

So here’s my point.

The bottom line is intentions do not build relationships, enhance growth or take us to our goal.

Intentions do quite the opposite actually, they deteriorate relationships, stunt growth and keep us from achieving anything in life.

Understand that action starts out as a thought, but those that intend to do something don’t take the second step – action. 

Be a person of second steps, who takes action.

One who thinks, “I think I should get the birthdayer a fidget spinner and then go gets it.”

One who encourages a friend that is currently in despair. One who calls a friend. Prays when prompted for the person across the coffee shop, for the co-workers, and that family member.

No one was remembered for intending to do something.